“Beyond Order” by Jordan R Peterson

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  1. “Do not carelessly denigrate social institutions or creative achievement”
    • Most of us think by talking, few ever do
    • Social interactions help keep us sane by providing interaction bumpers
    • Individuals have to balance what is good for themselves and what is good for the whole
    • Games have to be iterable to be durable (things can change and adapt over time)
    • It is important that we play the game fairly
    • When an authority, it is important to let the lessors control play and win often (1/3 or more)
    • Authority comes from competence while power compels
    • Liberal and conservative views are both important and need constraint
    • Understand the rules well enough to know when to change or break them
  2. “Imagine who you could be, and then aim single-mindedly at that”
    • Humans are really good at imitating
    • We need experience before we can recognize a pattern and progress it
    • When ignorance demolishes culture, monsters emerge
    • We love a good hero story
    • “What we need most to find is in the place we least wish to look.”
    • We can imitate more than we can explain
  3. “Do not hide unwanted things in the fog”
    • Do not pretend to be happy with something you are not
    • “Have the damn fight”
    • Life is what repeats and it is worth repeating it right
    • Leaning one way causes something else to balance the other side
    • The thing said is translated through a lens of all things that have ever been said in the relationship
    • “When ignorance is blessed to be wise as folly”
    • Is it scary or am I afraid?
  4. “Notice that oppurtunity lurks where responsibility has been abdicated”
    • Do the useful things that no one else is doing
    • Slay the right sized dragons… They have enough gold to make it worth while
    • Games only work if we accept the constraints of the rules
    • “Sin” is often better translated as “missed the target”
    • It is not cool to be the oldest person at the great party
    • Peter Pan, the youthful wild, refused to grow up, thus missing out of life itself
    • The hero is often sent to rescue his father
    • Voluntarily addressing of challenges is clinically curative
    • I, myself, are a community when considered across time
    • Happiness is inherently present-time focused and thus the pursuit of happiness does not produce sustained, long-term outcomes
  5. “Do not do what you hate”
    • Stupid things drain us
    • Hearken to your still small voice
  6. “Abandon ideology”
    • Ideologs reduce and oversimplify the world to reduce opposition
    • No group guilt should be assumed, especially multi-generational
  7. “Work as hard as you possibly can on at least one thing and see what happens”
    • The conflicted person cannot negotiate with anything, including themselves
    • You need to aim at something to keep you moving
    • Enduring something of value fortifies the self
    • Potential, never applied, is worth less than the potential applied suboptimaly
    • Child need to be self-organized and integratable by 4 years-old
    • Without a playable game, only chaos can persist
    • Growth is learning to integrate our different selves into a single being
  8. “Try to make one room in your home as beautiful as possible”
    • This establishes a relationship with the divine
    • This beauty can then pervade your life
    • Without art, we stop seeing the world and start only seeing pieces
    • Artistry is to contend with something you cannot express at a higher level
    • Lions attack the wildebeest they can identify
    • Art is not a decoration but an exploration
  9. “If old memories still upset you, write them down carefully and completely”
    • When trauma revisits us, it is because we refuse to actively and completely process them
    • Bad memories often do not mature as we do
    • We relive our traumas until we review them thoroughly
    • Worry is a consequence and investigation of future possibilities
    • We are all plagued by the memories of what we did wrong or failed to do right
    • Power comes when we realize that we each create our future from the raw time and space given us
    • God leverages “The Word” in crafting reality
  10. “Plan and work diligently to maintain that romance in your relationship”
    • Decide to not lie to your partner
    • Devote some time to maintaining the romance
    • Each should be subordinate to a single, higher power
    • “You do not find so much as make”
    • If there is an escape, there is not likely to be enough heat to burn through the dross
    • “I am going to kill you… It is just going to take a lifetime”
    • Tyranny is not good for anyone
    • If you’re not negotiating then you’re tyrannical or enslaved
    • If you do not know, then you should at least guess
    • Push through the dismissals
    • Red faced tears are often anger and not sadness
    • Nice is not the same as good
    • “Sins of the fathers” will echo through the generations
    • We need to tell our story to know it
    • It is easy to get vacations and special events right but harder to get the daily chores satisfactory every time
    • What matters is not the fight, but making peace
    • Never punish your partner for doing something you want them to continue doing
  11. “Do not allow yourself to become resentful, deceitful, or arrogant”
    • Why waste time perceiving when you can just remember?
    • Conceptualize life through stories
    • There are always monsters in the dark… until we are big enough to defend ourselves
    • Invite the evil queen because she will arrive either way
    • Lying is an attempt to alter the realities
  12. “Be grateful in spite of your suffering”
    • Have an informed optimism

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